Today, I feel a mess. My roots are VERY visible..I think most of you girls know what I mean. It's like half of the top of my head is dark brown and the other half is blonde. I am in some serious need of a teeth whitening treatment. (Too much coffee on these pearly whites, amen?) My hips could have used an extra workout with all this chocolate I have ate on this holiday weekend. Nail polish is half picked off. I could go on...
Wanna know something crazy?
Despite what all those magazine covers and television shows depict, you don't have to be perfect. I know they all portray perfect people with perfectly teased hair, perfectly white teeth, perfectly trimmed bodies, and a perfect family, but to tell you the truth, they are mostly airbrushed.
Here's a video that shows how its done:
Maybe those celebrity people don't make you feel insecure in your own skin, cause you know most of it is edited. Maybe...just maybe..it's those other people in your lives who make their lives appear to be perfect. Maybe its that friend who always seems to have the latest clothes, she always seems to have her hair perfect and her nails are never chipped. Her kids arn't ever fighting with each other and her makeup always seems perfect.
She may be the kind of friend who has the perfect instagram pictures. You know the ones. The kind with the perfectly staged coffee, the beautiful picture of her home she just cleaned "in her spare time", the picture with her friends as they are laughing as if Bill Cosby himself just walked in the room, the perfect selfie as she stands effortlessly outside by her car.
You know as well as I do that it takes 30+ selfies to get one that looks halfway decent, and then you STILL have to edit it. And all those laughing pictures...1/10 may be legitimate. But you know most of them were "ok, on three lets pretend to laugh histerically...one, two, three..." . And seriously, who ever has "spare time" to clean the house and then get a perfect picture of it with just the right amount of natural light??
And about that one friend who makes you feel so insecure because you think she is perfect. She's not! She probably had to wake up an hour and 2 cups of coffee earlier to let her eyes 'de-puff' from the nights rest and to look wide awake for the day. She also probably woke up an hour earlier to get her hair to look 'perfectly effortless'. Let me tell you something, NO ONE'S HAIR IS PERFECTLY EFFORTLESS. Do you know how long it takes to make a "perfect messy bun"? And I mean seriously..isn't that an oxymoron?
(I am saying all these things because I used to be that girl who tried to look effortlessly perfect...trust me it took a lot of effort.)
But guess what? These "perfect people" are just as messed up as you and me. Their hair gets split ends, they get pictures taken with lipstick on their teeth, they make F's on exams, they have fights with their significant other, they eat a tub of icecream every now and then. The point that I don't think I could stress enough is this...you don't have to be perfect. Honestly, no one is.
And can I tell you something sister? All this is just dust in the wind.
xoxo,
Lacey Beth
Here's a video that shows how its done:
Maybe those celebrity people don't make you feel insecure in your own skin, cause you know most of it is edited. Maybe...just maybe..it's those other people in your lives who make their lives appear to be perfect. Maybe its that friend who always seems to have the latest clothes, she always seems to have her hair perfect and her nails are never chipped. Her kids arn't ever fighting with each other and her makeup always seems perfect.
She may be the kind of friend who has the perfect instagram pictures. You know the ones. The kind with the perfectly staged coffee, the beautiful picture of her home she just cleaned "in her spare time", the picture with her friends as they are laughing as if Bill Cosby himself just walked in the room, the perfect selfie as she stands effortlessly outside by her car.
You know as well as I do that it takes 30+ selfies to get one that looks halfway decent, and then you STILL have to edit it. And all those laughing pictures...1/10 may be legitimate. But you know most of them were "ok, on three lets pretend to laugh histerically...one, two, three..." . And seriously, who ever has "spare time" to clean the house and then get a perfect picture of it with just the right amount of natural light??
And about that one friend who makes you feel so insecure because you think she is perfect. She's not! She probably had to wake up an hour and 2 cups of coffee earlier to let her eyes 'de-puff' from the nights rest and to look wide awake for the day. She also probably woke up an hour earlier to get her hair to look 'perfectly effortless'. Let me tell you something, NO ONE'S HAIR IS PERFECTLY EFFORTLESS. Do you know how long it takes to make a "perfect messy bun"? And I mean seriously..isn't that an oxymoron?
(I am saying all these things because I used to be that girl who tried to look effortlessly perfect...trust me it took a lot of effort.)
But guess what? These "perfect people" are just as messed up as you and me. Their hair gets split ends, they get pictures taken with lipstick on their teeth, they make F's on exams, they have fights with their significant other, they eat a tub of icecream every now and then. The point that I don't think I could stress enough is this...you don't have to be perfect. Honestly, no one is.
And can I tell you something sister? All this is just dust in the wind.
xoxo,
Lacey Beth
WOW, so well say and well writen! Love this post and LOVE your heart!!!!!!
ReplyDeletePersonally, one of my biggest battle is when people look me down because I am single. I makes me think that I am maybe not enough, that I need somebody to be somebody. But when those negative people are not there I realise, it's the Lord who decides and is plans ARE perfect and my life is not less cool or instagram worthy because I do not have a significate other yet.
I just resend you a message, hope you will have it! :)
Have a really nice week friend!
Wow - really great thoughts, Lacey. I felt like you read my mind my when you said that some of us don't struggle with comparing ourselves to celebrities, but to everyday people around us. That is definitely my bigger struggle. Sometimes I'll look at other girls my age and think "there is no way I could ever look that put together" and I start bashing myself on my hair and weight and a million other things. Yuck! I hate doing that. Thanks for sharing this... it feels like a good refresher for me today. I think I needed to get my perspective right again. No one is perfect, and like you said, it's really just dust in the wind. Thanks girl!
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ps. I have really LOVED following along your outfit posts on instagram! You are so cute and so full of joy!